Hello, WholesomeBaker. It is wonderful that you have such fond memories of your mother's baking, and it makes complete sense why you would want to streamline your pantry while still achieving those same delightful results.
The fundamental difference between regular flour (usually all-purpose flour) and self-rising flour comes down to two added ingredients and the type of wheat traditionally used. Standard all-purpose flour is simply milled wheat with a moderate protein content (typically around 10% to 12%), containing no leaveners or seasonings. Self-rising flour, on the other hand, is a blend of flour, baking powder, and salt. Additionally, many commercial self-rising flours, especially in the American South, are milled from softer winter wheat with a lower protein content (around 8% to 9%), which creates less gluten and naturally yields the tender, pillowy crumb you remember in biscuits and quick breads.
If a recipe calls for self-rising flour and you only have standard all-purpose flour at home, you can easily make your own blend. For every 1 cup of all-purpose flour, whisk in 1 and 1/2 teaspoons of baking powder and 1/4 teaspoon of fine table salt. It is important to whisk these ingredients together thoroughly before adding them to your wet ingredients so that the leavening agent is evenly distributed.
As a side note, if you ever find yourself in the reverse situation where you want to use self-rising flour in place of all-purpose flour, you can do so in quick breads, pancakes, or biscuits, provided you remember to omit the baking powder and salt already specified in the recipe. However, avoid using self-rising flour in yeast breads, pie crusts, or recipes that rely strictly on baking soda and an acid for rise, as the pre-added leavening can throw off the delicate balance of the recipe.
I hope this breakdown helps you enjoy simple weeknight baking without needing to clutter your pantry with multiple flour varieties.