Hello OldSchoolBaker,
I completely understand your frustration. Baking has changed a bit, but usually, a sinking sponge cake comes down to a few structural issues. Most commonly, it happens if the oven door was opened too early, letting a rush of cool air collapse the delicate air bubbles inside the batter. Another frequent cause is opening the oven before the flour protein and egg foam have fully set.
Additionally, modern chemical leaveners can sometimes be stronger than older ones, or perhaps your oven's thermostat is running a bit too hot initially and then dropping. I recommend checking your oven temperature with an independent thermometer and avoiding opening the door during the first twenty minutes of baking.